Time spent is time invested in a partner, so when some couples finish high school and begin to consider colleges, they can find themselves making decisions based on the good of the couple. One side may eventually see it as limiting their options for education, but the other side may take it as limiting their life experiences, instead.
In order to understand how high school sweethearts can find themselves facing a divorce down the road, one must remember what it takes to forge a teenage relationship in the emotionally fragile environment of high school.
Hormones and social pressures reign supreme with academia sitting shotgun in a vehicle driven by your own feelings. Rationality and maturity may or may not have been fully developed at the time, but because of the swing in hormones and emotions, you may not actually understand long term consequences of your actions. Finding yourself with a significant other of any kind in high school is an exciting accomplishment.
To actually spend extended time with that person is to get to know them more than just how they look on the outside, which can often be the only aspect that high schoolers care about. Some may take the years and outward appearances into account when they make their decision to divorce. Rarely do people look the same way they did when they were in high school. Human metabolisms and natural aging simply are not built that way, and so when a couple who dated in high school decides to marry in their 20s , they face a great deal of risk for future divorce.
He's OK just being OK. Part of me stayed with him because I thought that he would grow into that potential. Instead, it just frustrated me to no end because I felt the relationship dynamic was uneven — with me pulling 75 percent of the weight instead of Be cognizant of why you love someone and make sure it's absolutely percent because of who they are and not who they could be.
One of the reasons I believe I stayed so long was because I was comfortable. I didn't want to go out and date and have to be heartbroken over and over again. Most, if not all, of my friends were in long-term relationships, and our group of friends was really tight. Everything was going smoothly in life, so why shake it up?
I can't stress this enough: do not stay because you're comfortable. Or afraid. Don't settle. I gave up a lot of opportunities because I thought I was ready to settle down and have a family. I didn't travel as much as I wanted. I never lived anywhere else or lived on my own. And I turned down a lot of career choices because I felt the pressure to be home and to be a wife — whether he put it on me or not.
I had completely lost my ability to make decisions for myself. Elise Johnson. Lifetime lovers and seniors Cienna Pangan and Kate Stewart sit in a hanging chair together. Couples that are rooted from high school simply have more room for error than couples created later in life. After all, high school is a place where kids truly begin to grow up.
When you start being independent and live on your own, you learn a lot more things about yourself and quickly start to steer away from the kid you once were in highschool. Simply, four years is not enough time for anyone to completely grow up. If anything, high school relationships are great learning experience; it helps one figure out who they are, what they want and how to even be in a relationship to begin with.
It takes a lot of jobs and to get to the one that will make the most money; the same principle goes for relationships. Elise Johnson is a senior at Pleasant Valley High School, and currently counting down the days until graduation.
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